First, a video we created in the summer of 2012.
Welcome to the club that none of us signed up for, to the club that often comes with heartbreak and tears. Our goal is to find a positive journey through the mud and storms of life, trying not to fill the role of “victim” — at least not every day.
For some that means finding a group of people that understand when no one else does, people like yourself, in different phases of their journey. For many of us, it means learning all we can so that we can help ourselves first and foremost, and also our children, and for some of us, even our gay spouse/ex spouse.
And then there are a few of us who want to advocate for everything we can. Advocate for the straight spouses–those in and out of the closet and those that have yet to know, advocate for the LGBTQ community, and advocate for our children that are caught in the middle.
Each of our journeys are different. And yet there is much that is the same. Come, let us learn together and laugh together and cry together.
Our logo and motto come from two ideas that really struck a chord with some of us:
“The lotus is a flower that blooms in the mud. The thicker and deeper the mud, the more beautiful the lotus blooms.” (From the movie “What’s Love Got to Do with It?“)
“Now that it’s raining more than ever
Know that we’ll still have each other
You can stand under my umbrella”
Stand under my umbrella, or sometimes let me stand under yours. Let it cover your children and maybe even your spouse. But let it shelter you from the storm while you blossom into the person you didn’t ever realize you could be.