“Keep the goal of having a family in your mind. I know it hurts, but you can still make choices for the family together. Remember divorce only ends you having to try or pretend to have a romantic relationship with a woman that can not do that with you. It ends little else. You still are a family. You still had children together for a reason. You still love your children. And you still can figure out how to love each other and have a life as a family. Now you can love you. You can find someone to love you in a way you have never had before. Divorce is very very painful, but it does get better, even lots of fun, but it is lots of work. Know that everything does not end here. This is a beginning of something really really great. We love you and you are in our hearts and prayers. The pain is bad and it does not go away over night, but things get better than you will ever imagine.”
~from the ex-husband of a lesbian
- Fairy Tale gone Awry? by Sarah Nicholson, published on Feminist Mormon Housewives on June 16, 2012.